daniel123 wrote:
Echo that, I can relate on all counts but "trade" which I'm working on as we speak. Towards, rather.
I don't have an increasingly large amount of friends anyway, but those I do have (and I'm more than happy with several rather than fifty-six acquaintances)
I'm currently typing a 740-page book on the law onto my laptop. Because I can. I'm learning new stuff as well, it's wonderful....
No, Dan. There's something we forgot to tell them. Shall I? Yeah, I will.
That 740-page book wasn't typed up 'because I could' - I was being forced to type it up, letter by letter, page by page, by an abusive, controlling, manipulative, purely and simply evil partner who had, by this point, managed to manifest himself in the furthest regions of my life. I did so under threat of his leaving me if I didn't - he had made himself my entire world, and I had nobody else. Which takes me to that first statement - about having 'several' friends. I had no friends. I had him. That was all I had in the world. Him. He had forbidden me from speaking to anybody but himself.
On the outside, of course, I was made to tell people all was well and going swimmingly, and that I couldn't be any happier - the exact, polar opposite was true, but nobody was allowed to know this. I was regularly threatened with murder should I attempt to escape his clutches at any point. I was forced to hand over in excess of £1,000 - this is why I mentioned on the forum during 2013 that I 'had no money', because I had no money, because he was siphoning 100% of everything I made for himself - and 100% of everything I didn't have, too.
I would be hit with regularity, often whipped with his belt, occasionally beaten and at times, strangled with that belt until I became almost unconscious...tied to railings and left, made to lie down before being run over with his bicycle, even whipped with twigs, cut with glass. You name it, it happened.
That animal destroyed my life. This is why I've had the troubles I have had this year. He left in September 2013, and I felt awful, having become so attached to my abuser - these things are strange, and cruel.
So to answer my own question from the beginning of this thread - I'm living a recurring nightmare. Sorry.